Remember the story about the girl, the swimming pool and the bullies? She had the option of going back or not going back. The option had always been within her. She chose to go back. It wasn't like she had to go back because she hadn't found or Soulmate yet. Or do we presume she had already found her Soulmate and she was just using her option of learning more lessons in the material world, or by being of assistance here?
What I'm getting at here is that maybe all the talk of finding your actual true other half, (Soulmate), would become necessary when you've reached a very high level if you're to become in union with the one. Maybe you don't "have to" keep coming back to the material world in a never ending search for him/her. But eventually that would be the goal. Maybe the Soulmate could even be found at another level.
We've talked before about how how life here is a series of lessons, and by being here it's possible, (if one is awake), to progress through these lessons at a faster rate than if they weren't here. Makes me think it's an option always to return here or not. You could progress at a slower rate at another density, level or dimension.
Yes, I certainly do remember the girl in the swimming pool. I still know her. After all these years later she complains of not ever wanting to return to Earth. She claims to hope to never want to come back, and is angry at herself for making the choice to come back at the bottom of that swimming pool. And for all her angry denials, I can assure you and her with 100% certainty she will be back by her own choice.
So, when Gwineva says you “have to†come back until you find your Soulmate, it is not that you are forced, it is that eventually you get to the point that the longing for your other half becomes so great, and particular Lessons available to each of you together can only be learned at this frequency of existence, that your unclouded soul demands with an even greater urgency to return to find this Soulmate and experience finally what was missing so long in a place (here) that will be more forgiving of errors and initial failed first Lessons.
Now, what makes you think you can fully unite in total with the Absolute Spirit if you cannot reunite, let alone find, your own other half? Clearly one must proceed the other, and going by pure logic alone, how would it be conceivable to transcend to the Greater before you are able to complete and transcend the Lesser? One does not fully reunite with God half formed, or half whole. And again, this is by our choice… and so was the initial separation and division, but this is another Mystery, a topic for another day.
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On obedience, small shocks really do work, eh? I thought that one would get your blood going.
There is nothing much really to add what you said, however. Obedience, just like every other relationship virtue on my list, MUST be mutual. If every other virtue is followed by both parties, the question of obedience is an obvious one. Always, in a loving, respectful, balanced, selfless relationship, demands made from one party to the other are for the other’s greatest benefit and for the couple’s benefit. Healthy obedience is NEVER demanded for the purpose of one’s loss to another’s gain, or from the vantage of a master to a slave. The master to the slave couple is an abortion of a relationship, and lacking the other virtues mentioned, most importantly love and respect. It is imbalanced at this point, and many other things must be learned and corrected before obedience is considered. Yet, the healthiest relationship is not fully complete without the positive, balanced acceptance of obedience to your partner. And yes, you get here by ‘obeying’ the ‘laws’. We get ourselves in trouble otherwise, don’t we? The fact that even the positive conception of obedience is so foreign to our modern minds that it has been removed from most MUTUAL marriage vows only further goes to show how depraved and self centered we all have become, and this includes men and women both!
(By the way, loved your rant on the importance of work and sacrifices required in relationships!
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To conclude this post, I shall quote a part of Gwineva you haven’t read yet on Soulmates, followed by a true story from Rowena on the same subject:
“I have told you how rare is the experience of love, that is love as it should be – true love.
Therefore, as true love must come before the finding of a Soulmate, calculate the chances.
Precious jewels are rarities indeed, yet they are there for the finding. Generally speaking, a
Soulmate is not found in a single incarnation, it is discovered in its potential in a preceding one.
The seed is sown in one round and blossoms in the next. It is not remembrance which draws
them together in maturing incarnations but affinity, an affinity in which memories are ensouled.
Soulmates with adequate development will recall the past, for their very consciousnesses unite
and, in combination, overcome the individual vibratory barriers. The twain together is greater than the sum of their two parts.†…
“Did I dumbfound you when I stated that no one was in love when they married? If I did, then it
is unlikely that you have any conception of what I mean by ‘love’. I do not necessarily mean
matured love, for this might convey something less than what I had intended. I mean love with
all its ecstasies and tenderness, its delights and thrills, but accentuated tenfold – that is true love.
If you believed it to be something akin to what you experienced during your honeymoon, you
are well underestimating it, but so do the great overwhelming majority. This is going to be one
of your big problems – you are talking about something so very few people know anything
about. It is something most can hardly conceive.
Perhaps I am wrong to state no one is in love when they marry, but the exception is very rare
indeed. It is when two Soulmates meet, then and then only do true love and marriage walk
together. The nuptial tie is then truly the mating of twin Spirits. Those destined for this
experience manifest it from their earliest childhood. They are not too hard to single out from
others by a discerning eye.
Now, I am not going to suggest here that there should be any form of control over marriages and
free marriage mate selection, though in the present state of your society that might not be
altogether a bad thing. I do, however, suggest that pre-marriage education should be promoted.
Surely if this book serves no other purpose than to provide guidance to those contemplating
marriage, it will have served well but, of course it is much more than that.
Hasty marriages are never right, for marriage is a very serious business. There should be a
moderately long engagement period wherein mutual respect and understanding develop. It
should be a period of self discipline, of expressed concern for the other and of awakening
tenderness and consideration. If these and other qualities are not awakened prior to marriage,
they will not be afterwards. It is to be stressed that unless love buds before the sex experience,
it will never bloom. Sex can express love, but it can never awaken it. This is one prime cause
for the devaluation of love; the clock is going backwards, it was better expressed and manifested in your society a century ago.â€
--- Above quotes from Gwineva
“The second example is that of a woman born into a good family of modest means. She was plain and homely, but pleasant and cheerful in nature. She married at an early age and had two children. After four years of marriage her father died and her mother came to live with her daughter's family. The woman's husband went to war and was killed, and so she was left to survive on a meagre pension and her own resources. There were many widows then, the competition was strong, and the woman was toilworn and harassed with the problems of everyday living. Yet she maintained a good home and her children were always clean and tidy, they were certainly by no means neglected. However, although she gave every indication of being a good marriage mate, she lacked physical attractions and sex appeal.She had propositions which fell short of marriage, but was disinclined to cheapen herself and give a wrong example to her children. So she struggled on with only her daydreams to lighten her burden.
She dreamed of being beautiful, of having nice clothes instead of the rather shapeless second-hand ones she now wore. She day-dreamed of romance, of a handsome lover and of servants and luxuries. She built castles in the air, always in romantic settings. In her spare moments she read romantic novels. Her children grew up to be good citizens with happy, stable homes and social status. She lived to a ripe old age, but during the later years of her life suffered disfigurement of rheumatoid arthritis. Nevertheless, she remained always cheerful, always ready to talk through another's problems and set a shining example of courage under affliction.
She died and was duly reincarnated. She was not born into an affluent family, but one in the respectable middle class, comfortably off. Even at an early age she showed the promise of the future, she was beautiful. She grew up, an exquisite creature with charm, poise and grace. She became one of Australia's top models. During her school days she had a special playmate, a boy who lived in the same street and who, as they grew into maturity, absolutely adored her. Despite their long and close association he never treated her other-wise than with the greatest respect and delicacy. He was always gentle and considerate. He had several fights with others who spoke of her in a crude context. One tried to sexually assault her, she had undoubted sex appeal, and her devoted admirer beat him up. Subsequently, her champion was 'done over' by a gang and it was at this time that she took the first steps in her career. When the young man came out of hospital, she was no longer around.
Her sexual attractiveness drew men to her like flies around a honey pot, but she did not succumb to the blandishments. Deep within her subconscious, she felt that she was destined for something greater. She intuitively knew that somewhere there was someone who was destined to be the great love of her life. She was one of fortune's favourites, a child of destiny, and fortune did smile on her.
The males a model is likely to meet are men of the world and the circles in which she moves are not conducive to the fostering of family and romantic values. Yet, as her values became known, even some of the most uninhibited men began to look at her with more serious intent. Her image was even more enhanced by her circumspection. Like with all things, her unattainability increased her desirability.
The tide of events had carried the model and her youthful flame in different directions and it was sometime before they met again, and then by chance. She was glamourous, beautiful and perfectly escort. He was disfigured by a broken nose and a badly scarred face from the bashings of a boot. They met, but both were embarrassed and uncomfortable being in a public place, conditions were not conducive to intimate talk, and they were inhibited by their private thoughts and inner reactions. There was the attraction of affinity and the repulsion of the difference of status. The gulf was great but not unspannable, the chips of fate could have fallen either way. They were soulmates, ideally matched for each other's fulfilment, but though each felt the heart-rending tug of affinitive attraction, both drew back for their own not altogether selfish reasons. The kharmic crisis point was passed, fate recorded a decisive adjustment on the scales of life, what should have been would not be. The accounts would have to be balanced.
Scarcely recognising any change, nevertheless the model was aware that she thought differently. No longer did she have the feeling that somewhere there was just the right man for her. She felt less romantic, less idealistic in her perspective on love, more physical and down to earth. Instinctively she knew something was now missing that had been there before, but it was so vague and illusive that she put it aside with her other previous concepts, attributing these to the immaturity of her past She felt she outlook. She became worldly- wise, married a wealthy man and genuinely felt she was in love, as she probably was on a somewhat lower level.
Her marriage did not work out and when it broke up she took to alcohol and later was involved in a car accident where her face was badly cut with flying glass. She is no longer glamorous, nor sought after as a model, but she has not gone to pieces and has her life in balance. She no longer drinks and is currently living a reasonably useful life in modest circumstances, raising three children. What the future holds is not yet revealed. Yes, she is a real person, as is the man in the first example, hence the absence of names.â€
----- Quote from Rowena
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